Play time: 15:40 minutes. Recorded in Shiru, Kenya, March 16, 2014.

Megitso Ga Vasakulu Ku Vayayi Vahirananga

Henry Nyareso

Inze ni Henry Nyareso Munangwe. Na nzitsi kumumanyia ku makuva kijira kuli vasakulu vigitsanga vayayi ni venya kuleta vakali noho vagogo.

Avaguga vavolanga walegaa mukali yalega enzogu. yilu nu lugano lwa valogoli avaguga viitu vavoola vatumikira kijira limenya kuli livetsa liduka ku liva lidinyu nu mundu mukali. Ma vigitsa avana vayayi mbikaa lugano lugano. Kali kutura ku Adamu gali tsa ndio kijira Adamu yalonda makuva gu mukali weve ma nalamwa na nyasaye. Mukali yalombwa ku luvalu lwu musatsa navutsa vugeli vu mkali nu vutambi nu vugatsamu. Ku nyasaye ahenzanga niva yive mundu musatsa ulamuguta. Avandu va kale vali ni vatia inyama ilangwa enzogu kijira vwara vudinyu kwita inyama yiyi. Ku avayayi vavoolelangwa mukali aveye kuli enzogu kijira mukali nakugina voveshi vandu vanyinge kuduka vasuvula.Mukali siyali wa muyalana naye wamuguta mba. Mukali nakutsamila avasigu no vodoto kwitwa. Mukali ni yenya kukwita mu vyukulia no vodoto kijira iye odeka. Mukali nakwenya uvulina si vuveye vodoto kusula dave kijira ilimwenyela likusundanga himbe. Mukali anyara kukudekela itsinyasi kuduka ogoyane. Mukali ukwenya no konyoola agambisu anoho isiri yoyo ni vodoto. Mukali ajira mugirana na vivuli, viko anoho varina. Mukali anyara kukolomba ove mudaka anoho akolombe mmbe ni linyoola. Mukali asambula mugitsi anoho yumbake. Mukali anyara kuheya nu undi musatsa na akohe avaana vataveye vovo. Yaga nigo amang'ana malala gajira avasakulu ni vigitsa vayayi ni venya koleta vagogo anoho vakali. Mu ibaibo Samsoni yavegwa lisu nu mukali weve Delila. Kandi vigitsa Naomi yalomba Ruth niyivula ku Boaz umwana. Kali mwami Daudi mu vangeli yagwa ku matava kijira mkali wa Uria. Lugano lundi lwa kale lwavoolanga ndi; utakina ku ligina, ligina luya. Mundu mukali aveye nu luya na kandi ni ligina lyu kuteleka ku; na wagwa hasi na wavunika mugongo. Mukali yakivula avaana agwitsa ligina ma aregela musatsa weve. Vasatsa vanyinge vakungwa na vakali ma vatsia mu miandu na vandi vagotera ilugulu na vandi viyita ku vava ni tsungulu tsinyinge kuvita vandu vavaleta vaveye vasatsa. Lugano yilu ni lwa giligali niva mima jijo nu vudedekele vuvwo jilalomba mundu mukali agwa kuli enzogu. Kandi nu wenya koleta si watsitsanga vutswa lidiku lilala kuli gaveye kalunu dave. Watevanga ni vandu lugano ki, noho na valogi, noho vandu vataveye varahi. Na kandi wateva ni hiri ki. kali niganyarika mutanga kogenihitsana kwanza nimutaretana. Anoho mwenyi harusi mukola vandu ni valoola vagisangarila. Vayayi vavoolwa kusingira vudinyu kuli ndi. Wuumbaka inyumba yoyo nutarleta mukali, wagulaku tsinguvu tsiduchi, engoko, tsimburi anoho eng'ombe. Ugura vindu vyo kogonera nu kikiri koleta. Yivi ni vindu vyenyekana kutanga nutaleta mukali wa wenya uyu. Agaloondaku ni yaga: ove muguru koleta vyukulia mu nyumba, ove ni tsinguru okotwekitsila enzogu chiyanza ku amanye ndaitsa ku musatsa, ogeitsi ku tsindolo, usiae mukali wovo mu lyivika. Mukali uyu utavita milei sita nomenyi ihale naye dave. Umanyie mukali wovo viko vovo. Mukali wovo atagenda na vakali vi mima midamanu dave. Mukali wovo amanye kokodfekela chukulia chuyanza nu kulinda avaana. Mukalii wovo ave muguru kandi yigitsa avaana mima milahi. Musatsa utayanza kugunzira ivwasi no kodeka mba.

Lugano he endovo ituri anoho yifwa yindi imeraho. Lugano yilu vasakulu vatumikilanga kijira mukali niyakutsanga waletanga kandi undi udukana ni livaa lilahi. Lugano lundi kuveye nalwo: lukutsu lukukinduraa. Nutaarinda mukali vulahi yatsitsaa ku musatsa undi anoho adedekela ma akutsa. Yicho chu lugano lwene yilu lovoolanga. Mukali niyaheritsanga umanye utamenya nomogondokera anoho numukuba inyinga yosi dave. Utagendagenda muvivanda nu mbukindu inyinga yu mugamba tsuri dave. Utava ni riyoga rinyinge anoho rikubililu mba, mwana anyara kwegosa munda mwa mama weve. Alie vyukulia vilahi vidoto na matunda. Mukali uyu alindwi nu vuyanzi ni kilima mwoyo katsotswe. Vivune vindi yivi geneyekana mwana muyayi musoleli amanye: noveye muyayi mukali niyahelitsa inyinga yindi avetsa mugata. Asura kulia, asula vyukulia vilala natutsa matee na naluka. Asura kali musatsa wamuleta kuva naye halala. Asura liyoga linyinge mundu kumuyogera. Avetsanga nu munwa mululu ligali na makuva malulu. Inyinga yindi yegomba musatsa katsotso. Inyinga yokonyoola mwana yindi ivetsanga indinyu ma mukali tsana anyala kwatwa niva livula lyali lidinyu. Musatsa yenyekana amanye mukali ni kiju kenene. Koveye ni ling'ana kovola kelonde anoho mgima. Ni lindi liveho lya valanga kidwadi. Ekelonde ni mukana wali niyavula kogenda ku nu mwana muyayi mu lukana lwilwe (mgima). Vakana valindangwa kuduka mihiga shirini ku vavahira. Yigitsangwa mima na makuva gaanyara kwilindila mu nyumba yeye kuli; yavoolelwangwa nolola ivembe nikina utakina ku dave. Gavoolanga aronde ga yigitswa na vahindira kuli vamwigitsa atsie kumenya mu nyumba yeye. Mundu musatsa: mundu utaveye musatsa wakoreta niyakwenya na yive umugaye nu mwoyo gwosi. Mukana yadinya kumusatsa wamureta vutswa. Likuva livola kidwadi yili: uyu nu mukana ni wali niyivulila mu nyumba yavo. Mukana uyu si yalange ku ni lisuvilwa dave. Kali nayakoola keselelo chakolwa hamugorova ma kandi alondilitsilwa ku luvanda. Vandu va kale valange ni liavukanyia lye kelonde (mundu mgima) ni kidwadi noho harusi ya vandu vavili yava. Kidwadi si chagingaanga likindu anoho siyavidangwa uvwanga anoho usingilitswa ku kesero mba kijira vara ni mima jyu kuginga likindu kumanyia wali mugima. Niwaveha wali unyala kukuza, ma kandi kuvidwa nedne kusingilitswa ku kesero. Mukana ni yalange ni inda si yakolangwa mima jye kelonde dave. Ni yakolangwa umwana yatulangwa; kali mkana yali anyara kukuza. Mukana niyatatangwa vugima yahevwangwa heshima enene kijira mukana mugima vakeere valinda valola yali mgima noho ndi; vanyoola yali mgima yala na heshima. Kali vavugula eng'ombe ni vavoshi ku marande vashira wavo ni sherehe vatsia kolomba vyukulia valia. Kajira vakana vanyinge vilinda valanyole ku heshima yiyi. Likuva liveye kovola musoleli anoho mugase. Ling'ana musoleli ni mwana muyayi ukikiri kukevwa anoho utatsia mu kivanda anoho mudumi. Vayayi yava nivo vigitswa makuva manyinge na vasakulu ku nangwa lwa vakevangwa vamanya vaduchi kuhira mukali nu kumulinda mu malago genyekana. Lugano leveye ho lovoolanga utaloola nyia na vukana, dada yata vutsa tsing'ombe. Gavoolanga utalola vutsa mama wovo na aveye mukele ma umulegeliste nu kumtsarava dave. Umanye lwa baba wovo yamulola namuleeta yalu mukana mugasu kandi mukana wa veene. Na kandi umanye mama wovo ni yaatsa ku baba wovo yamulola na aveye muyayi wu tsingulu na kandi wu kuyanzitsa. Yaga ni mang'ana malala ku makuva ga vasakulu vigitsaa ku. Ingawa gaveye manyinge navutsa ku vwiyangu vwa mbeye ku navwo vudi na gene yago.

Old men teachings to men

I am Henry Nyareso Munangwe. And I am going to tell you teachings that the old men passed to men who wanted to marry wives.

Our grandfathers used to say the one who defeated a woman defeated an elephant. This is a proverb that our grandfather used especially when the life of a man and his wife is at the trial moment. They taught men in different stages. Even from Adam it was like that because Adam followed the words of the wife and he was cursed by God.

A woman was made from a man's rib but the wisdom of a woman is more and wide. So God is looking if you as a man can defeat her. Long time ago people feared elephant because it was difficult to kill it. Boys were told that a woman is like an elephant, because when a woman speaks a lie, most of the people normaly believe it. You could not argue with a woman and defeat her. If a woman sends you foes they can easily kill you. If she wants to kill you through the food it is easy because she is the one who is cooking.

If a woman wants to have friendship with you it is easy because, her attraction pulls you near. She can cook medicine for you until you become a fool. If a woman wants to know or see your secret it is very easy. A woman makes you to disagree with your parents, relatives or friends. A woman can make you be poor or have an income. A woman destroys or build the homestead. A woman can engage in adultery and give birth to children who are not yours. These are the things that make old men to teach young men who are getting married.

In the bible Samson was shaved by his wife Delilah. They are also taught that Naomi made Ruth to get a child from Boaz. Even David who was wise, he got himself in problems when he was attracted to Uriah's wife. Another old proverb was like this; do not play on the stone, the stone is warm. A woman has warmth and she can cause you to slide; and if you fall down you will break your back. Once a woman has given birth to children she becomes a stone and she defeats the husband. Most of the men have been chased away by the women, others have lost in urban towns with other women and others kill themselves. They have more strength than the men who married them.

This proverb is real, your behavior and weakness makes the woman be like an elephant. And also when you wanted to marry you didn't just walk there in one day like these days. You were inquiring they are which type of people, maybe they are witch or people who are not good. You also inquired their tribe, if possible you could invite one another before getting married. Or you do a wedding when people are seeing and celebrating you. Boys were encouraged to stand strong, you were to build your house first before you bring a wife. You could buy enough clothes, a hen or a cow. You could buy items for sleeping on before you marry. These were items that were required at first before you bring the wife that you wanted to marry.

What follows is this: you should be able to bring food in the house, you should be able to meet her sexual expectations so that she feels that she is having a man. You reduce sleep and make your woman happy. You should not stay away from her for over six months. You should introduce your wife to your relatives. Your wife should not walk along with women who lack good morals. Your wife should be able to cook food that is good to you and your children. You wife should be hardworking and also teach your children good morals. As a man you should not spend more time in the kitchen and also cooking.

There is a proverb that says where "endovo" has moved from or died another one normaly grows there. This proverb was used by old men because when a husband lost her wife, you were allowed to marry another woman who met the requirements. We also have another proverb: death snatches you. If you were not taking good care of your wife, she could get married to another man or die. That is what this proverb meant. If a woman gave birth to a child, you were not allowed to yell or beat her always. You were not allowed to walk in the forest early in the morning. You were not allowed to make noise in the house or fight always. The child could get a shock while in the womb of her mother. These were the facts that a man who was getting married was to know: if you are a man and your wife is pregnant sometimes she become lazy, she refuse to eat and she becomes allergic to some food as she spits while she is cooking.

She can even refuse to sleep together with the husband. She refuse someone to make arguments with her. She has harsh tongue and reply. Sometimes she may want the husband close. Sometimes giving birth is a problem and she amy have to undergo surgery. A man had to know that a woman is a great thing. We have "Kidwadi" means a girl who gave birth to a child before getting married. Girls were taken care of up to the age of 22 then they get married. She was taught good morals and the way she could take care of her family and she was to follow the teachings that she was given by elders. In order to take care of her house and also stay well in her house.

If another man who is not her husband asks her for friendship, she was to resist with her whole heart. As a girl you were to stick to the husband who has married you alone. The term "Kidwadi" refers to a girl who gave birth to a child while she was still with her parents. This girl was not trustworthy. Even if she wedded, the wedding was done in the evening then she could be taken to her house through the bushes. The old people had separate ways of doing this, a person who gave birth to a child before marriage was not allowed to carry a flower. If you cheated you could die, you were not allowed to stand at the wedding. If the girl was pregnant she was not allowed to undergo the normal wedding procedure, because the child could easily die. A girl who was a virgin was highly respected, because she had respect too. They could even take a cow to her home and prepare food. That is the reason to why most girls took care of themselves so that they be treated with such respect.

There is a word that we say uncircumcised person (mundu musoleli). This is a person who has not been circumcised. These are the people who are taught a lot of things, so that when they will get married they know how to take good care of their wives. There is another proverbs that says do not look at your mothers old age and say that father threw his cows. This proverb means you should not look at your mother while she is old then you look down upon her. You should know that when your father married her she was beautiful and she was a girl who belonged to her parents. You should also know that when your mother got married to your father she saw, that he was handsome and strong. These are some of the teachings that the old men taught. There are more but because of time I have given that.